For Better, Not Worse

Last month, as I waited in my hair salon for the goo on my head to perform the miracle of turning back time, “Sue” (alias) announced her tale of woes that ended the prior week in divorce. Sue seemingly was married to Attila the Hun. If what she said about him was true, words... -Read More

The Perfect Valentine’s Day – For Men Only

Perfection is in the eyes of the beholder. Valentine’s Day has a number of beholders: Girls hoping for valentine cards from the right guys Couples hoping to charge their marriage with a romantic get-away Guys hoping to join the estimated six million who pop the question No matter which stage of love you’re in,... -Read More

Calling All Couples

What is the calling of your marriage? Calling? To stay together? To support each other? To raise godly kids?   Don’t feel badly if you answered a. Most couples expect to live happily ever after. Or perhaps marriage is a checkbox on your expectations list. But a calling? Maybe you are just putting up... -Read More

Not Another Christmas

  It’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year… that is if your marriage is running on all cylinders. But what if it isn’t? Are you dreading the holidays? The Ghost of Christmas Past Close your eyes and think back to your childhood Christmases. Do you smile or cringe? If you... -Read More

It’s the Little Things

“Name ten things you love about your husband,” I challenged a friend at the end of her marital rope. “Nothing. I can’t think of one thing,” she replied. I prompted, “Does he provide?” “He brings home a paycheck. That’s it.” She had no trouble listing the things he did wrong. Facebook post I posted... -Read More

I Love Me… I Love Me Not

“I, Nadine, promise to enjoy inhabiting my own life and to relish a lifelong love affair with my beautiful self,” Nadine Schweigert vowed. That’s right – she married herself. With all the talk about same-sex marriage, polygamy, incest, polyamorous relationships of various kinds, it’s not surprising to find that there is also a practice... -Read More

That’s A Sorry Excuse!

  Have you tried to apologize, but your spouse won’t accept it? Has your spouse apologized, and you don’t believe he/she is sincere? You are not alone.   What happens when an apology is not offered, appropriate or accepted? Whatever the root of the offense, it sits in the middle of your marriage keeping... -Read More

And Baby Makes What?

You’re about to become parents. Congratulations! Now your marriage is going to be even stronger, and you’ll be happier—right? After all …“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him” (Psalm 127:3). The effect of children on marital satisfaction In a May 9, 2016 Fortune article, Matthew Johnson, professor of... -Read More

The Cost of Wild Oats Sowing

“Boys will be boys, young men must sow their wild oats, and women must not expect miracles,” wrote Louisa May Alcott in her classic novel Little Women, published in 1869. Wild oats are a type of European grass. They are useless for cereal crops. Worse, they infiltrate good crops rendering them useless. According to... -Read More

The Incredible Shrinking Spouse

You’ve met them — men/women who over twenty years of marriage lose their joy and wither at the hands of their biggest critic  their spouse. Is this you? Picture it. Joe comes home after working all day in the heat at a job he really doesn’t like. He took it after he got laid... -Read More